This time of the year, hearts are open and the spirit of giving is in the air. Kindness can be seen and felt from people who are normally caught in their own lives and needs. Children are excited as they count down the days to Christmas and vacation. It truly is a special time of the year for most.
Let us remember those who are not as fortunate, blessed even to enjoy this festive time of the year. Their only concern is their next meal or where they will lay their heads. Christmas is just another day and gifts will be something for others to enjoy. A child’s only thoughts and words will be “I’m hungry and I’m cold!” as they quietly bow their heads cry because there will be no toys for them to open.
I’m not trying to make anyone feel guilty for what they have, only to remind us to remember the people next door, your co-worker who has been fasting 3 or 4 days a week because they have no money to eat every day and the food at home has to last. Say a prayer for them and if possible share what you have. Embarrassment or pride will make them say they are fine so, don’t ask just give discretely and walk away. They’ll appreciate it more than words can ever express and please don’t wait or expect them to say thank you. If you see them avoid your eyes or, a tear starting to form, know you’ve touched their heart.
Love never fails, so keep showing it! – Valarie
I saw a post from Simple Life on 21 days of gratitude challenge. I thought wow, that’s awesome, 21 days to share why you’re grateful. I’m grateful for the ability to see others through the eyes of love. Regardless of how someone acts, my response is a choice. No-one can make me respond a certain way. My response good or bad is solely on me.
I’m thankful and grateful for all the love, encouragement and support I receive from family and friends, as well as patience and longsuffering of my flaws. I’m grateful to God for creating me the way he has, the more I learn of myself, the more I see how special I am.
With anything else understanding how special you are will help you to see how unique and special others are too!
Having an attitude of gratitude will help to keep you humble and appreciative of everything you’ve been blessed to receive and keep you from comparing yourself to others. Valarie Lovelight
Love chooses to see, believe, and hope for the best!
People spend a lot of time in a crowd wanting to belong. They feel that it others will add to their value and self-worth. They do things to fit in not realizing that something’s will only hurt them in the end. Never do they take the time to get to know themselves and discover the true value of who they are. Take the time to discover the beauty of being you. Learn to love yourself as is! No amount of money, material goods, drugs, makeup or friends can do that consistently or genuinely. Be content being by yourself because only then will you learn to see the value in others. Valarie Lovelight
Black women regardless of skin color desire to be accepted for who we are inside and out. Unfortunately, in our desire to been seen, we have gone too far to fit in with others that we have lost ourselves within all the changes we’ve assimilated through the passages of time. From our hair, appearance, body type, dress, looks etc. we are constantly adapting to someone else’s perception of what’s acceptable and trying to live up to those standards and ideals of who we are and what’s best for us .
The reality is this, until we know who we are and how valuable, precious and beautiful we are, we will always feel the need to define ourselves in someone else’s eyes and live up to their perception of us. In the end we will continue to gravitate to cultural trends and video ideology, rap music and Hollywood for our identity.
We must learn to celebrate the uniqueness of our hair, skin color, and body type, etc. and not allow the pressure of negative stereotypes or type casting to dictate our actions and self-worth. Understand that our desire for attention plays out in our provocative dress as a means for getting it. However, there are far less self-devaluing and self-destructive ways to be seen and heard. Instead using our body, we have to learn to use our mind. We must find another way.
We are not ‘baby mamas, ho’s, hood rats, project chicks, BITCH’s, someone’s jump off, or something to do! We’re more than welfare recipient, lazy and trifling. Our darker pigmentation doesn’t make us ugly or undesirable. We don’t have to settle for being a chick on the side or one among many and…ALL BLACK MEN DON’T HATE US!!!
We’re strong, nurturing, inventive, openly accepting and creative. We rise to any occasion and do what needs to be done for your family and those we care about. We love deeply and wound easily. When recognized, we have natural grace and appeal. We must learn to walk with our heads held high with regal and queenly ease.
We must take the time to find ourselves again although for some it will be for the first time, but it is a journey worth taking. Remember, others will never see the true beauty in us until we do!
*Although I’m addressing Black Women, this can apply to all women!
Love in action – Loving yourself will make it easier for others to love you as well.
This was inspired by some young ladies who desire to see themselves in a positive light in a world full of negatives.
Too often we find ourselves having to make decisions that will impact our lives one way or the other. We spend endless days and precious moments procrastinating on what to do and in the end… doing nothing.
Today, decided to move forward in life by taking a step, instead of standing still.
The choice is yours!
Things might just workout but you’ll never know unless you take a chance.
However, if you don’t make a choice to take a chance things will never change but again, the choice is yours!
Infinite love, takes you into the realm of the unlimited, unhindered, unaltered and unconditional.
Remember, love has no boundaries except for the ones we give it. Love never changes people do! Love has no conditions, we do!
Dare to love others infinitely, unashamed and unafraid from the heart, giving of yourself and seeking nothing in return!