Black women regardless of skin color desire to be accepted for who we are inside and out. Unfortunately, in our desire to been seen, we have gone too far to fit in with others that we have lost ourselves within all the changes we’ve assimilated through the passages of time. From our hair, appearance, body type, dress, looks etc. we are constantly adapting to someone else’s perception of what’s acceptable and trying to live up to those standards and ideals of who we are and what’s best for us .
The reality is this, until we know who we are and how valuable, precious and beautiful we are, we will always feel the need to define ourselves in someone else’s eyes and live up to their perception of us. In the end we will continue to gravitate to cultural trends and video ideology, rap music and Hollywood for our identity.
We must learn to celebrate the uniqueness of our hair, skin color, and body type, etc. and not allow the pressure of negative stereotypes or type casting to dictate our actions and self-worth. Understand that our desire for attention plays out in our provocative dress as a means for getting it. However, there are far less self-devaluing and self-destructive ways to be seen and heard. Instead using our body, we have to learn to use our mind. We must find another way.
We are not ‘baby mamas, ho’s, hood rats, project chicks, BITCH’s, someone’s jump off, or something to do! We’re more than welfare recipient, lazy and trifling. Our darker pigmentation doesn’t make us ugly or undesirable. We don’t have to settle for being a chick on the side or one among many and…ALL BLACK MEN DON’T HATE US!!!
We’re strong, nurturing, inventive, openly accepting and creative. We rise to any occasion and do what needs to be done for your family and those we care about. We love deeply and wound easily. When recognized, we have natural grace and appeal. We must learn to walk with our heads held high with regal and queenly ease.
We must take the time to find ourselves again although for some it will be for the first time, but it is a journey worth taking. Remember, others will never see the true beauty in us until we do!
*Although I’m addressing Black Women, this can apply to all women!
Love in action – Loving yourself will make it easier for others to love you as well.
This was inspired by some young ladies who desire to see themselves in a positive light in a world full of negatives.
Too often we find ourselves having to make decisions that will impact our lives one way or the other. We spend endless days and precious moments procrastinating on what to do and in the end… doing nothing.
Today, decided to move forward in life by taking a step, instead of standing still.
The choice is yours!
Things might just workout but you’ll never know unless you take a chance.
However, if you don’t make a choice to take a chance things will never change but again, the choice is yours!
Infinite love, takes you into the realm of the unlimited, unhindered, unaltered and unconditional.
Remember, love has no boundaries except for the ones we give it. Love never changes people do! Love has no conditions, we do!
Dare to love others infinitely, unashamed and unafraid from the heart, giving of yourself and seeking nothing in return!
You are special the way you are. Just like the word because is misspelled people may think you are not right or incorrect because you’re different. The difference is what makes you special and unique. I know I’m different and I stand out. My thoughts of love and forgiveness catches people off guard. I’m not to good to be true. I my not be in the majority but I’m not alone. Don’t treat me like everyone else, if you do, you’ll never learn about me and you’ll cheat yourself of the experience and pleasure of doing so. I was afraid to be myself and what others would think. I tried to fit into a mold and it work but I wasn’t happy. Then I met myself and the fear left. Don’t be afraid to be you, be afraid if you never do!
I had an amazing time in Las Vegas 2 weeks ago. If you haven’t been to the Grand Canyon…Go! Words and pictures can’t describe the view, feel and beauty of the scene.
I met up with two of my girlfriends for a great time. More pics and posts to follow. Until then…
Enjoy life where you are right now. Learn to love and appreciate those around you. Never settle being second in the life of others and especially your own. Like the Grand Canyon, you worth goes far beyond the eyes can see. Each formation tells a story and those who value you will take the time to discover what it is… a National Treasure!!!
Hugs and love from me to you.
Occasionally we need to remind others that they’re not alone! We never know what someone is going through because they always wear a smile. Perhaps things are chaotic and they’re barely able to stay afloat but still they smile through it all. Maybe they’re always mindful of others but no-one is mindful of them.
There really doesn’t need to be a reason to let someone know that you are thinking about them. Do it just because! Let me know that you’re here, you care and you miss them. Do it because you love them! Valarie
Love needs to be seen, heard and felt!
To All Mother’s and mother like figures, Happy Mother’s Day!
Thank you for your listening ears and endless tears full of love and concern.
For those of you who mothers are no longer in your life… cherish the memories.
For those of you who’s mothers were not worth remembering, endeavor to be the mother to your children you wish you had.
Love in action – It’s never too late to love! Valarie Lovelight
Within your hands is the ability to show and be at peace with others. This peace will not always be welcomed or appreciated, don’t let that stop you. Be at peace with all people whenever possible. Never let anyone still your peace or break it!
Most importantly, be at peace with yourself. Love and Peace goes hand in hand, so next time you extend a hand, raise a hand, wave a hand etc., think of peace. Valarie
Love in action – Peace and love makes a better person.
Originally posted on The Abuse Expose' with Secret Angel:
Happy Anniversary is the announcement that I received from WordPress. I did not actually know if WordPress called it a “Birthday” or an “Anniversary”… however, May 3 of last year was the beginning of another phase in my life as The Abuse Expose’ was birthed. For this reason, I consider it a birthday.
You see, for many years, I had been keeping journals of my life including my thoughts, my feelings, my dreams, my fears, and even my prayers. I had written about my struggles through my marriage falling apart with the abuses revealed, the traumas, the death threats, and the total turmoil and confusion that engulfed my life. I had also written how God started revealing Himself to me in my brokenness.
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