Be Yourself

Love You! Be You!

Love You! Be You!

One of the hardest things for us to be is ourselves even if we don’t realize it. I’ve been a lot of things over the years to people, nothing bad just not good for me. There is nothing wrong with pleasing people and helping out as long as you’re not neglecting, settling and ignoring your own needs. This was me. My needs were important but they could wait. I had plans and goals and they would eventually be done after I helped someone else achieve theirs.

What can I say, I’m a giver and a helper but at some point I became burnt out and despondent to my needs. I had put them off for so long, I forgot about them or convinced myself they weren’t that important. Wrong. They mattered and were important because I was/am.

Funny, I had to relearn what I liked and what I wanted.  I had to remember what was important to me. In essence, I had to reintroduce me to myself. Strange but true but I’m not the only one. Their are lot’s of people who need to be reintroduced to themselves. Once I did that, it was easy to be myself because now I know who I am.

 

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About Valarielovelight

Hi, my name is Valarie Lovelight. This I call myself as a reminder of what I choose to be everyday towards others, a light of love in action and not just in words. I invite you to read, comment and share on my blog as well. Also, to add something about myself, I'm an author and Minister and love is my calling to share with others.

3 responses to “Be Yourself”

  1. julienmatei says :

    I just love how you formulate this, such a wonderful way to put it:

    “In essence, I had to reintroduce me to myself.”

    For sure, I also need to be reintroduced to myself. It feels as if starting and
    re-evaluating EVERYTHING from scratch…

    I so much recognize myself in these words of yours:

    “I’m a giver and a helper but at some point I became burnt out and despondent to my needs. I had put them off for so long, I forgot about them or convinced myself they weren’t that important”

    To finally dare to give you to yourself, – what a process…What a risky challenge…I say “risky” because, oftentimes you simply don´t know how to love yourself… Seemingly, we also need someone else to show us how to proceed in this adventure.

    Let me tell you that I find your wording very soothing, I kind of hear you speak “between the lines”…

    You have a great gift. No doubt about that.

    Such a beautiful photo…Such a wonderfully loving smile…sweet, humbly feminine …humorous but pensive… friendly and intelligent glance. I can´t take my eyes off her…There is hope for the world when I see her gaze…

    Who is she…? You, maybe…?

    • Valarielovelight says :

      Hello there,

      Thank you for your thoughts, kind words compliment and reblogging my post. It is/ was a risky challenge getting to know yourself, one that still challenges me every day.

      I can’t change who I am in respect of how I see people and wanting to pour myself into pain. A healing balm of love if only for a moment as a reminder that someone cares. But I needed that healing balm of love for myself as well and I’m learning to use on me more often.

      Love is who I am, who I desire and have accepted to be. It’s what I/we were created out of God’s love as I see it.

      And there in between the lines here for me I have yet to discover and then maybe she will be me.

      You are truly a word smith. One who’s words are multifaceted in there presentation, provoking in thought and yet fundamentally true in some way. Have a great day! Show love in a smile, words or some type of gesture to someone.

  2. julienmatei says :

    Reblogged this on Mirrors of Encounters and commented:
    So wise and true words here…

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