Life doesn’t always have to be colorful to be beautiful!
Even though land seems to be in the middle of nowhere, I see a beautiful sky full of clouds with the sun’s light radiating through and between them. The ground to the left has been prepared to yield crops in its season. The field to the right has the potential to produce an abundant harvest as well. But for right now, it’s carpeted by grass and inviting passerby’s to sit, lay back and enjoy the view even picnic. A road well-travelled that says all are welcome! I see openness, potential, beauty, endless possibilities, peace, transformation, inspiration and a beautiful canvas to dream about the future.
What do you see?
Hugs and love from me to you! Valarie
Black women regardless of skin color desire to be accepted for who we are inside and out. Unfortunately, in our desire to been seen, we have gone too far to fit in with others that we have lost ourselves within all the changes we’ve assimilated through the passages of time. From our hair, appearance, body type, dress, looks etc. we are constantly adapting to someone else’s perception of what’s acceptable and trying to live up to those standards and ideals of who we are and what’s best for us .
The reality is this, until we know who we are and how valuable, precious and beautiful we are, we will always feel the need to define ourselves in someone else’s eyes and live up to their perception of us. In the end we will continue to gravitate to cultural trends and video ideology, rap music and Hollywood for our identity.
We must learn to celebrate the uniqueness of our hair, skin color, and body type, etc. and not allow the pressure of negative stereotypes or type casting to dictate our actions and self-worth. Understand that our desire for attention plays out in our provocative dress as a means for getting it. However, there are far less self-devaluing and self-destructive ways to be seen and heard. Instead using our body, we have to learn to use our mind. We must find another way.
We are not ‘baby mamas, ho’s, hood rats, project chicks, BITCH’s, someone’s jump off, or something to do! We’re more than welfare recipient, lazy and trifling. Our darker pigmentation doesn’t make us ugly or undesirable. We don’t have to settle for being a chick on the side or one among many and…ALL BLACK MEN DON’T HATE US!!!
We’re strong, nurturing, inventive, openly accepting and creative. We rise to any occasion and do what needs to be done for your family and those we care about. We love deeply and wound easily. When recognized, we have natural grace and appeal. We must learn to walk with our heads held high with regal and queenly ease.
We must take the time to find ourselves again although for some it will be for the first time, but it is a journey worth taking. Remember, others will never see the true beauty in us until we do!
*Although I’m addressing Black Women, this can apply to all women!
Love in action – Loving yourself will make it easier for others to love you as well.
This was inspired by some young ladies who desire to see themselves in a positive light in a world full of negatives.
Too often we find ourselves having to make decisions that will impact our lives one way or the other. We spend endless days and precious moments procrastinating on what to do and in the end… doing nothing.
Today, decided to move forward in life by taking a step, instead of standing still.
The choice is yours!
Things might just workout but you’ll never know unless you take a chance.
However, if you don’t make a choice to take a chance things will never change but again, the choice is yours!
I had an amazing time in Las Vegas 2 weeks ago. If you haven’t been to the Grand Canyon…Go! Words and pictures can’t describe the view, feel and beauty of the scene.
I met up with two of my girlfriends for a great time. More pics and posts to follow. Until then…
Enjoy life where you are right now. Learn to love and appreciate those around you. Never settle being second in the life of others and especially your own. Like the Grand Canyon, you worth goes far beyond the eyes can see. Each formation tells a story and those who value you will take the time to discover what it is… a National Treasure!!!
Hugs and love from me to you.
Within your hands is the ability to show and be at peace with others. This peace will not always be welcomed or appreciated, don’t let that stop you. Be at peace with all people whenever possible. Never let anyone still your peace or break it!
Most importantly, be at peace with yourself. Love and Peace goes hand in hand, so next time you extend a hand, raise a hand, wave a hand etc., think of peace. Valarie
Love in action – Peace and love makes a better person.
As always, I believe in celebrating the uniqueness of each individual. We’re not carbon copies. We may be similar but never the same. Even identical twins have differences, not matter how subtle, if you pay attention. With that said, be proud of who you are. Never compare yourself to someone else because you’ll always fall short in your eyes. When you look in the mirror don’t focus on what you don’t have or how you don’t look. Learn to appreciate who you are and learn to love being you! I’ve learn this over the years with myself. Change what you can if that will make you a better person not just a prettier one. Happiness starts from the inside out not the outside in. Be outstanding by being you!
P.S. If you want to feel better about yourself, help someone else to feel better about themself! Just a thought.
Love & Hugs from me to you! Valarie