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Don’t Judge!


There are days when I feel like I’m being judged. I take the path least travelled. I walk where others wouldn’t think twice about going and I purpose to love the unlovable. Am I different, special, bold, brave, daring, fearless, unique or more equipped? NO! I’m just me trying to love others the way God does.

I’ve walked through storms and have been tossed, drenched, cold, hungry, alone, lonely and left to drown but I survived because of LOVE himself seeing me through. The storms have strengthened me and opened my eyes to see others in the midst of their storms and extend a hand of love.

My storms have molded my heart and continually transform me into the love I have received from above!

So, the next time you see me in a storm, encourage me through because it might just be for you! – Valarie



We need to learn to laugh more and stress less. When situations occur that you cannot change, worry, fear and doubt won’t change them. They will only succeed creating health issues, aging, changing and wearing you…down. All situations are not impossible regardless of what they look like. Remember the challenges you’ve face before, somehow you made it through. I know I did, but that’s another story! Learn to laugh more importantly, learn to love, it makes life not seem so bad.

Free eBook/ Paperback Promotion Winners


Someone asked me, ‘Do you have stacks of books lying around because you always seem to be giving them away?‘ The answer is… No! Whenever I want to give books away, I just order them.  Giving with no string attached is so foreign now days, anyway, now for the winners!!!

Yay!!! Below are the recipients of the FREE Book Promotion!  I think my post was not clear about liking my Facebook page but none-the-less; if you are interested in receiving a FREE copy of my book, SEEING THROUGH THE EYES OF LOVE,’ send me a mailing address to lovein_action.com. The address will only be used to send the book. I don’t compile any type of list or solicit. If you wanted it on Kindle, let me know by email and I will send a FREE e-copy to you. The book is Christian Fiction. Please let me know either way. Also, you can decline to receive one, I promise to still love you!

Love In Action


Thomasmaxwell12       iGameMom

TheGirl                           Joe Warnimont

seeberj                            Jon Lilley

메간                                reachingutopia

thepoetsbillow             SerenadasPen

beautiful loser              Ryan

refined quotes              Renard Moreau

Culturemonk                Sakshivashist

The Art Studio by Mark Moore

Daniel Gonzalez           Patricia Beykrat

Bottledworder              Derrick Brewer

Glenn Folkes                Fullofrosesinspirationals

My Free eBook/Paperback Promotion


For the readers out there of Christian Fiction or fiction that challenges how you see people, check out my book ‘Seeing Through the Eyes of Love on Kindle. Today and tomorrow April 6-7th, 2013, it is available for FREE on Kindle. http://www.amazon.com/Seeing-Through-Eyes-Love-ebook/dp/B008544WUM/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1365257070&sr=8-1&keywords=Valarie+Lovelight

However, if you don’t have a Kindle and would like paperback, I will mail you a copy for free. NO STRINGS ATTACHED!!! All I asked is that you like my Face Book Fan page, this will help me to keep track of the first 20 people to receive a FREE copy. Click on link below. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Valarie-Lovelight/259476924154732?ref=hl

Note: This book is fiction but not a romance book although there is some in it. Enjoy!

**All information will be used solely for mailing of the book. No list is being compiled for present or future use of contact.

The Power of Words

Words can fatally wound those who are already hurt. Choose your words carefully because you never know how much that person has already bled.

These words echoed in my heart and mind all day and it started to ache. I thought about a woman, who I’d never met, never blogged with and never knew she existed. However, I read a blog post that another blogger wrote about a woman who took her life. The post was so simple and powerful with emotions for this woman.

She had experienced what no child/toddler should ever have to from those who are supposed to love and protect her. Year’s abuse stole her innocence, mental stability and self-worth to name a few. She seemed to stumble forward as she tried to find some footing, balance, value in herself and most likely purpose. She tried like most victims to move passed the pain, shame and scars of her life. She was broken in pieces and didn’t know how to fix herself and others who genuinely loved her couldn’t as well.

She reached out online and found support maybe some didn’t understand. They couldn’t see her through the eyes of love, God’s Love. She was in a tunnel, couldn’t see a way out, and at some point stopped trying. There was no value in her, so there was no value in her life and no point in living. She was better off gone, no one would miss her, and those who did, would be better off without her.

Reading the post, I recognized the signs of her torment and the reckless behavior that signified she had given up and it was only a matter of time. It would be, as if she had never been except for those who knew she once existed.

Words can either heal and build or tear down and destroy. It was words of friends, really strangers that crushed what little hope she had and joy she’d found. Words that judged what couldn’t be understood from a spectators view. Words cut and cuts bleed. She had been bleeding for years and words finished her off.

Unfortunately, there are plenty of people like her in the world. We need to be more mindful of our words. We may not agree with what someone does or how they live but we also don’t know or fully understand how they got to that point. Everyone handles circumstances and situations differently and some are stronger than others are physically and emotionally. Sometimes cries for help can only be heard with the heart. Eyes can’t see it and ears can’t hear it. It is a silent cry that screams aloud for love to hear and feel.

Let us love each other in words, actions and positive reactions. Seek to build up those who are struggling. Learn to see them as God did and does, worth dying for in the midst of their faults. Remember, love covers a multitude of sins. So, love and not judge or hate because of what you think you see but really don’t understand. Our responsibility is to love not judge and your opinion is still a form of judgment. Is it yours to offer? Yes, it is. Nevertheless, at some point you will be judged by it.

Let God’s Love shine a light into the darkness for other to see and follow out. Let your words be filled with love or let them remain silent.

Who Is Valarie Lovelight?

Who is Valarie Lovelight? I’ve often asked myself this question. She’s not who I was but who I’m becoming. One who desires to show unconditional Love to all. My love can never equal or come close to this type of Love but with God’s love operating through me, all things are possible. I’ve always had an infatuation with the idea of love. At first and for the longest time I was looking at it in terms of relational with other people. It was something I needed from them but most importantly it was something I needed to give.

My personal relationships were ok until they weren’t, still I found it easy to forgive and love the person regardless. It just felt natural like breathing to forgive even though society is centered more on holding grudges and making people pay. I was at odds with myself and thought maybe my love is for someone special until I realized everyone who crossed my path was special and worthy to be loved. Compassion was what I felt regardless of others behavior. This is the way I wanted others to be towards me, forgiving of my shortcomings and faults.  I couldn’t expect people to see me through the eyes of love if I couldn’t see them the same way.

I struggled to accept the fact that I am love plain and simple. Everyone has a purpose and calling in life, mine is to love in spite of and above all else. This love that I am is God’s love in me flowing out of me. Crazy yes, and even crazier to explain, and at times hard for people to understand but it’s true. Loving is my strength and joy. When I’m loving others and giving I’m happy and joyful. The satisfaction I get from living this way is indescribable.

Valarie Lovelight is a light of love no matter how big or small that shines into the darkness with Love. She’s a light that shows people that there is hope because there are still people who genuinely care.  She’s has been crushed with disappointment but not destroyed. Emotionally torn, depressed and oppressed by fear but freed by Love. Rejected by people but accepted by Love. Overlooked by man but singled out by Love. She has been hurt and wounded by words and actions but healed by Love. She’s considered unworthy but Love calls her worthy.

She’s not perfect or close to it. She has good days and bad moments. Yet knowing that hurt, pain, fear, doubt, disappointments, and the like will always be on the path of love, will not deter her from loving. She believes that Love never fails and vows to never give up on it.  She’s also happy to know that she’s not alone but that this type of love, God’s Love exists in all who embrace it and choose to walk it out with others.

Valarie Lovelight…She is love. Love is me and we are one!

Steps of Love

Every time we bruise or hurt someone, we step out of love. E.W. Kenyon

Imagine yourself on the path of love and as you walk, you stop to hurt someone with your actions. Or, maybe someone said mean words to you and you stopped walking in love to respond back with mean words. How about when someone crosses your path with gossip and you stop to listen and add your own words to the conversation. Words that if that person heard would hurt them and make them mad. Maybe you’ve been wounded or hurt and you decide to retaliate.

These things and more take us out of your love walk. 1 Corinthians 13 says love takes no account of a suffered wrong. It did not say a suffered wrong wouldn’t hurt. Walking in love means not allowing your steps to be halted, detoured or stopped. It’s a choice that we make every day with people. It’s a choice because no matter what someone does we can choose how we will respond to them. The hardest thing to do is not to respond or let it go. Unfortunately, this is not our society or, the way we have learned to respond.

Our choice is to not follow the crowd trends and let society dictate our actions. We may seem to stand alone in choosing to walk in love but why not be a trendsetter! What I’ve found is there are others who want to join in but don’t want to be the only ones. Someone has to step out and walk the path of love. Why not you? Our steps should be filled with unconditional love. The more steps we take the easier it will become…in time. This I know to be true in the step of my love walk. It’s not always easy but worth it.



Love Never Fails!

Love Never Fails!

No matter what it looks like. No matter what it feels like, always remember…Love Never Fails!