A smile is like a beautiful flower, it can transform everything around it!
Hugs and Love from me to you! Valarie
“Why do you like Samantha, Nicholas?”
He shrugs his shoulders, fidgets a little and says, “I just do!”
“Samantha, why do you like Nicholas?”
She giggles, “I don’t know…because, because,” playing with her fingers, ” I just do!”
Is there a reason why they like each other? Or, maybe it’s as simple as they just do. No reason necessary.
Hugs and Love from me to you! Valarie
Black women regardless of skin color desire to be accepted for who we are inside and out. Unfortunately, in our desire to been seen, we have gone too far to fit in with others that we have lost ourselves within all the changes we’ve assimilated through the passages of time. From our hair, appearance, body type, dress, looks etc. we are constantly adapting to someone else’s perception of what’s acceptable and trying to live up to those standards and ideals of who we are and what’s best for us .
The reality is this, until we know who we are and how valuable, precious and beautiful we are, we will always feel the need to define ourselves in someone else’s eyes and live up to their perception of us. In the end we will continue to gravitate to cultural trends and video ideology, rap music and Hollywood for our identity.
We must learn to celebrate the uniqueness of our hair, skin color, and body type, etc. and not allow the pressure of negative stereotypes or type casting to dictate our actions and self-worth. Understand that our desire for attention plays out in our provocative dress as a means for getting it. However, there are far less self-devaluing and self-destructive ways to be seen and heard. Instead using our body, we have to learn to use our mind. We must find another way.
We are not ‘baby mamas, ho’s, hood rats, project chicks, BITCH’s, someone’s jump off, or something to do! We’re more than welfare recipient, lazy and trifling. Our darker pigmentation doesn’t make us ugly or undesirable. We don’t have to settle for being a chick on the side or one among many and…ALL BLACK MEN DON’T HATE US!!!
We’re strong, nurturing, inventive, openly accepting and creative. We rise to any occasion and do what needs to be done for your family and those we care about. We love deeply and wound easily. When recognized, we have natural grace and appeal. We must learn to walk with our heads held high with regal and queenly ease.
We must take the time to find ourselves again although for some it will be for the first time, but it is a journey worth taking. Remember, others will never see the true beauty in us until we do!
*Although I’m addressing Black Women, this can apply to all women!
Love in action – Loving yourself will make it easier for others to love you as well.
This was inspired by some young ladies who desire to see themselves in a positive light in a world full of negatives.
Infinite love, takes you into the realm of the unlimited, unhindered, unaltered and unconditional.
Remember, love has no boundaries except for the ones we give it. Love never changes people do! Love has no conditions, we do!
Dare to love others infinitely, unashamed and unafraid from the heart, giving of yourself and seeking nothing in return!
You are special the way you are. Just like the word because is misspelled people may think you are not right or incorrect because you’re different. The difference is what makes you special and unique. I know I’m different and I stand out. My thoughts of love and forgiveness catches people off guard. I’m not to good to be true. I my not be in the majority but I’m not alone. Don’t treat me like everyone else, if you do, you’ll never learn about me and you’ll cheat yourself of the experience and pleasure of doing so. I was afraid to be myself and what others would think. I tried to fit into a mold and it work but I wasn’t happy. Then I met myself and the fear left. Don’t be afraid to be you, be afraid if you never do!